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Every generation receiving exam results before you includes young people who’ve experienced disappointment, worry and stress related to unexpected grades. It’s not unusual to feel lost and confused about what to do next.
However, no generation has experienced what you’ve been through – receiving grades without exams during a global pandemic. There has also been confusion and several changes to the way grades have been allocated this year which has added to the uncertainty you might be feeling. This unique situation requires a new level of attention to your wellbeing and resilience.
There has also been confusion and several changes to the way grades have been allocated this year which has added to the uncertainty you might be feeling. This unique situation requires a new level of attention to your wellbeing and resilience.
The following activities and tools are designed to support you to constructively acknowledge what you’re experiencing, while finding ways to pick yourself up and feel hopeful about your future.
There’s an achievement you now have that isn’t graded by any academic board that deserves some recognition: your ability to live through five months of education in exceptional circumstances. Take 10 minutes to really think about this and answer the following questions. Looking at ourselves through an optimistic lens can feel a bit strange at first, don’t let this put you off.
When receiving grades that fall short of hopes or expectations the following questions are likely to be most prominent. Can I do anything to try and change this? Do I feel it’s worthwhile to try to do something to change this?
If you feel an intense sense of injustice because the grades aren’t matching up with your previous performance, then talk to your teachers about the possibility of your school or college appealing on your behalf. You may also want to consider taking your exams in the Autumn if you know you thrive in an exam environment.
There may also be an element of facing up to disappointment with yourself. Regret that you didn’t work harder and/or a sense of shame at not being as good at you hoped at a really difficult subject.
If your disappointment with yourself outweighs disappointment with the way the education system has adapted during Covid-19, then try practising resilient self-talk using the tool below.
Draw lines to match the worry-provoking self-talk with the more supportive and resilient self-talk. Where there isn’t a matching statement, write down your statement.
Your school or college will hopefully be able to give you some options and guidance about what you can do next, but not all. You have an opportunity to be proactive in seeking these for yourself – whether it be accessing support from a government careers advisor, talking to trusted adults about how they’ve moved through a sense of failure or disappointment, or finding online tools and courses to help you learn more about what you really enjoy and are good at.
Watch videos 4 and 5 from our resource library to learn more about developing curiosity and understanding how best to tap into yours.
No one has a time machine or a crystal ball to accurately predict the future. Therefore, the best we can do in any situation is what we can, with what we’ve got, from where we are now.